So I've been thinking a lot about a documentary that I watched on the discovery channel (I don't know if I've ever mentioned this on here but I'm kind of a documentary junkie lol I watch random documentaries a lot haha) but this one was called "science of sex appeal" so OF COURSE I watched it! Who wouldn't with a title like that, but the more I watched it, the more stupid it became! It started off with discarding the notion that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and it talked about the symmetry of women's faces and that has a correlation to beauty, as well as a small feminine jaw, then it moved downward and pinpointed what is considered beautiful for each part of the body, and how women's waist should follow the 7/10 rule, it was crazy! There is no way in HELL anyone posses's every trait of beauty that they talked about! Then the documentary presented a study done by a University in Canada I think, they had 10 men and 10 women rate the opposite sex on a scale from one to ten but didn't tell the participants what number they received and they just had to start pairing up with who they thought they could get and it showed that 9 (boy) and 10 (girl) paired up and 2 (boy) and 1 (girl) paired up, and the study suggested that people pair up with the most attractive person that they think they could get. They explained that the reason people try to find attractive partners to is provide the best genes possible to their children. They even included the way women and men walk and smell and sound into their level of attractiveness. I don't completely disregard the validity of the study, or even the documentary in it's entirety, I do however, think and feel that a person's brain and personality has a lot to do with that person's level of attractiveness. I have set up a lot of people in my time, and most of the people I have set up ended up falling in love and getting married, so I think I have some insight as to what people are attracted to. I have only a few times set people up based only on "attractiveness" and guess how many times that has worked out... if you guessed 0 you are right! So what does attract people to each other? Do opposites attract? Or is it more important to have things in common? I actually think about this a lot, in a world with over 7 billion people and not a single one is the exact same as another, how do you find someone that you not only COULD live with for the rest of your life (or eternity) but that you would WANT to live with. How could you even know how you are going to feel about that person in a few years. I think marriage is one of the hardest concepts for me to grasp when I really think about it. I think all of my idea's of marriage changed when I was on my mission because I had companions that I spent everyday and every night with and only didn't see them when either one of us was using the bathroom (and sometimes even then... Sister Smith lol) but every single one of my companions was SO different from each other. I had nine companions throughout my mission and with each one there was good and bad. The first companionship I was with (besides the MTC) we were in a trio and both of those first 2 companions were very different from each other and from me! One of them was sweet and gentle and kind, and caring, she was exactly what I needed in a trainer! And the other one was SO funny, and carefree and fun to around, she made being a missionary look easy because she was having fun everyday. I loved being with both of those companions but when it was time to leave we all knew it was time to go because we were getting more and more irritated with little things that each of us did. The next companion I had was my direct opposite, she was quirky and spunky, and bounced up and down when she would be excited about something, and she compared herself to fictional characters, and was really funny, but we had to learn a lot from each other because we were so completely different and it made it challenging to understand where each of us was coming from because we thought so differently. After that I had pretty much hand picked the companion I wanted because we got along so well and she was so laid back, I thought we would be a dream team! I loved this companion, she was hilarious and fun, but I learned that I am not as laid back as I thought I was and I like to have control so it made it not quite as perfect as I thought that companionship would have been. The next companion I had was a blast! We really had so much fun together (this one is Sister Smith, who walked in on me when I was going to the bathroom one night, the funny thing is that we had separate bathrooms and I was in mine lol) but she was a hard worker and very obedient to the rules, and I LOVED that about her! but the trouble was that we were both pretty controlling, and she was my longest companion so you can imagine how 2 controlling people would get after 5 months of spending almost 24 hours a day together, we were ready for a change. Not only was the next companion I had one of my favorite companions of my mission, she was every person who had her as a companion's favorite companion! She was so easy to get along with, she did anything you asked her to do, she was hilarious and fun, and she really made my mission and other people's missions more enjoyable. When we were done being companions I was genuinely sad to be leaving her side, but if we had been together for another transfer I think we would have been ready for a change as well. After that I was in another trio and those 2 companions were a BLAST! They were both really fun, really hard working girls! Sister Robinson and I had been companions in the MTC and she was one of the girls in this companionship, when we were in the MTC together we had a hard time with each other, so I thought it was going to be a rough transfer but it was the opposite of a rough transfer! It was one of the most fun transfers I had in my entire mission! We had dance parties to church music and we got up at 5:30, 3 days a week to go play basketball at the church with the other missionaries in the area, and we had a blast together! But we were different in our styles and sometimes we would have conflict about which approach was better. Sister Robinson was very intelligent, and knew every lesson like the back of her hand and was ready to teach anyone, anywhere. I was a very follow the spirit and see where it leads kind of missionary and I could tell she would get kind of frustrated when I would leave the lesson to talk to people about unrelated things and I would get frustrated when she would promptly bring us back to the lesson, so we had a difficult time that way. And the last companion I had was a lot different from me because she was very nice but also very socially awkward, which is something I've never really been. So needless to say we didn't get along super well. Even before and after my mission I have had "companions" because at work there are 2 people who work in a room together and there are people I have gotten along with better than others and I can say with complete surety that I will NEVER, NOT EVER marry a 19-year-old girl! Lol I know those experiences were different than what it would be like to be in a romantic relationship (or marriage) because there are different feelings that you have towards people you are in a relationship with so it's probably a little easier to not get so annoyed at little things, but eventually everyone gets bugged. Although there were good qualities in every companion I had and even though I loved all of them, I was eventually ready to move on and experience the next adventure. I don't understand how people can feel confident enough to enter in a lifetime contract with another person. Maybe it is because I have never been "in love" that I feel that way, but I am just so freaked out by the idea of marriage. With all of those things to consider in each companion I have had or every relationship I have been in I can't imagine marrying someone because I think they are "the most attractive person I could get". Sorry future kids, but I am not going to marry someone who is lazy or incompetent or anything else I couldn't handle just so you can be the most good looking as possible! I want my future children be smart and kind and have great personalities even if their "levels of attractiveness" is compensated. Besides I want my future children to be raised in an environment where they know I love their dad because we get along so well, rather than someone who drives me nuts and I secretly can't really stand but is pretty hot (or at least the most attractive that I could possibly get). Maybe it's just me but I would much rather take someone who is educated, and caring, and loving, than someone with a symmetrical face and a good body! (no offense to those of you with symmetrical faces and good bodies!) lol
ANYWAYS! I hope you all have a MERRY CHRISTMAS! thanks for reading :)
